Lifestyle

“MARRY A LOYAL MAN NOT THE RICH OR HANDSOME”- COUNSELOR ADOFOLI

Published

6 years ago

05/18/2019

Lionel

The major troubles we face in marriages are due to weak foundations. We claim we are madly in love and soon exclaim we are out of love or have run out of love. While the men tend to love because of her beauty, the women loves based on riches and handsomeness. Sometimes it seems hard for a lady to introduce the boyfriend to her friends and family because he is neither rich nor handsome.

Most ladies are in relationships with handsome guys, whom they refer to as ‘cute’, but on the other side, they are insecure in the relationship. Putting untold pressure on themselves just to have the guy’s eyes on them alone. Getting involved with needless fights in the name of driving other ladies away from her man.

Some are with a rich boyfriend but feel like they have been bought and paid for. The boyfriend is not always there for them. Their men are not faithful to them. Issues about trust give them sleepless nights.

I am not saying rich guys cannot be faithful or that handsome guys cannot be with one woman. What I want ladies to know is that, a great relationship goes beyond his riches or handsomeness. You need someone who is loyal; some who has unfailing love for you. No matter how handsome he is, he will know your place in his heart and won’t sacrifice that for anyone. I am talking about you having a handsome guy you won’t have to fight or compete with other ladies to keep.

There are lots of married women who are having sleepless nights because their handsome husbands cannot keep their eyes off other women. Such marriages were not built on foundation of loyalty, but she believed once they were married he will be all hers. Her biggest nightmare is when the husband says he has run out love for her.

As a lady looking for a lasting and happy life together, you don’t get into relationship with him just because he is handsome. If he is not loyal, you are better off being single. But when you mistakenly marry someone who is not loyal, you end up running out of that marriage one day in pains.

You don’t marry a man because he can buy everything including you. Marry him because you are one thing he can’t afford to buy with his money. A man who is faithful to you, who puts you first before his money.

As a young lady thinking about marriage, you should not be impressed or swept off your feet because of how a man looks or how rich he is. You should be impressed by the way he treats you. He should treat you as the most important person in his life which he won’t risk losing, but rather adore and protect you.

If he is rich or handsome or both but not loyal to you, then let him do you a favour by exiting your life. Let them leave that empty space for someone who is loyal to you, a person who deserves to be there. Such a person’s love does not fade, it lasts.

And if you have a man who is loyal to you, does not give up on you, appreciate him. It doesn’t matter if he is not rich today, as far as he is faithful with the little he has and working hard, with your support, he will achieve more. It doesn’t matter if he is not handsome like others, he has a heart that makes him handsome.

So be proud of him, go ahead introduce him to your friends and family, believe in him, stand by him. Always remember he is your choice and not the choice of your friends and family. Nobody knows you better than yourself. You can have their choice who won’t treat you like you deserve.

In conclusion, He who pursues righteousness and loyalty Finds life, righteousness and honor” – Proverbs 21:21 (NASB).

Fashion

Stephanie Appiah: The Visionary Behind Hairphanie and a Champion of Natural Hair

Published

2 weeks ago

04/12/2025

Lionel

Stephanie Appiah, fondly referred to as Yaa Afrah, is a trendsetter in Ghana’s hair care industry. Her story is one of resilience, innovation, and empowerment, as she turned her personal struggles into a mission to help others embrace their natural hair.

Through her company, “Hairphanie”, Stephanie is reshaping narratives around African hair and inspiring women across the continent to wear their crowns with pride.

Stephanie’s hair journey began with challenges that many African women relate to. As a young girl growing up in Ghana, societal norms dictated that schoolgirls had to cut their hair short.

This stifled her ability to connect with her natural hair and learn how to care for it. After high school, she chose to relax her hair, but the decision came with devastating consequences. Scalp burns, bald patches, and hair damage became a regular part of her life.

“I felt trapped,” Stephanie recalls. “I wanted to love my hair, but I didn’t know how.”

The turning point came in 2015 when Stephanie decided to stop relaxing her hair. Despite the lack of skilled hairdressers and products tailored to natural hair in Ghana, she committed to learning everything she could about caring for her hair.

Stephanie’s dedication to her natural hair journey led her to experiment with organic ingredients, formulating her own products to address the specific needs of her hair. Friends and family soon noticed her hair’s transformation and began asking for her help. What started as a personal endeavor quickly grew into a business.

In 2019, Stephanie officially founded “Hairphanie”, combining her skills as a self-taught hair stylist and organic hair care product manufacturer. The company offers a range of organic products and professional services designed to meet the diverse needs of natural hair.

“Hairphanie’s” mission is clear; to inspire people to embrace their natural hair while providing solutions that exceed expectations.

Stephanie’s impact goes beyond hair care. She is challenging deeply rooted societal norms in Ghana that discourage women from growing and maintaining their natural hair. By sharing her story and expertise, she has inspired countless women to embark on their own natural hair journeys.

One of her most significant contributions is her work in schools, where she advocates for policy changes that allow young girls to grow their natural hair. Stephanie believes that dismantling these restrictions is key to fostering self-acceptance and empowering the next generation.

“Hair is more than aesthetics,” Stephanie explains. “It’s about identity, confidence, and freedom.”

Hairphanie’s vision extends far beyond Ghana. Stephanie aims to make the company the most preferred hair care solutions provider in Africa and beyond. She plans to become a certified trichologist within the next five years, deepening her understanding of hair and scalp health to better serve her clients.

Stephanie is also working on her book, “Breaking the Crown”, The Journey of Yaa Afrah, which will delve deeper into her story and the societal norms she is fighting to change.

Through her resilience and determination, Stephanie Appiah has proven that African hair can grow long, healthy, and beautiful with the right care. Her journey serves as a powerful reminder that beauty standards are meant to be challenged and redefined.

Stephanie’s story is not just about hair it’s about reclaiming identity, embracing individuality, and empowering others to do the same. By encouraging women to wear their natural hair with pride, she is creating a movement that celebrates African heritage and inspires self-love.

For many, Stephanie Appiah is more than an entrepreneur she is a symbol of hope, strength, and transformation. Through “Hairphanie”, she continues to prove that the crown we wear is one of beauty, resilience, and endless possibilities.

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“A year of excellence” Joe Kole Outshines All in 2024

Published

4 months ago

01/01/2025

Faya Ghonpoint

In the current ghanaian music space, it will be unfair to give all credit to artists without acknowledging the efforts of music producers.

One producer whom we can not turn a blind eye to his recent works is Wodzrah George, widely known as Joe Kole. From the days of Flowking Stone through to the era of King Paluta and Amerado.

The champion music producer, Joe Kole, has proven to be a timeless producer; recently being behind 80% of hit songs in ghana and being a core influence in the rise of kumerican music vibe.